The Road Home to You

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A White Christian Addressing Racism

June 5, 2020
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As a Christian, I’m often faced with the difficult choice of how to respond to certain events on social media. Do I speak out? Who in my faith circle will that offend? Do I stay quiet? What message does that give to my friends who don’t share my faith? ‘What would Jesus do’ becomes more than a kitschy phrase worn on a bracelet; it becomes a real question with teeth. It’s a question that matters.

Many times I get it wrong. Horribly wrong. 

But right now, in the midst of a civil rights movement that has superseded a global health pandemic, I don’t wonder IF I should speak up. I wonder how.

It’s a tightrope, sometimes, trying to express passionate thoughts and ideas with just the right tone. I don’t want to sound sarcastic or dismissive or inconsiderate. I don’t want to be tone-deaf or come across as a know-it-all. The fact is, when it comes to the racial issues we are currently facing, I don’t know nearly as much as I should. My history books were largely void on the subject of racial inequalities. So much so, that for a good many years, I thought the battle against racism was largely gone. A battle fought and won by so many before I was even born. 

I was wrong.

I have seen racism against black and brown people, not on the news, but first hand. I have witnessed the racial slurs and the hatred spewed out on kids who were doing everything right, but their skin…was wrong. I have seen that here, in my own small town. Guns being pulled on kids minding their own business after celebrating the independence of our great nation. An independence that they only read about, but don’t truly get to experience. Not like I do. 

I know what it feels like to be pushed aside, to be marginalized, to be shushed for talking too loud. I get that. What I don’t know – not really – is what it feels like to be pulled over by a cop and rehearse everything my mama and my daddy told me about putting my arms just so and speaking in a calm and steady tone otherwise I might come off as threatening, giving that officer the idea he needs to protect himself. I don’t know what it’s like to watch my son walk out the front door and wonder if today is the day he won’t come home because he was wearing a hoodie downtown. 

There’s so much I don’t know.

But I’m learning. I’m learning about how in 1932, 600 black men were used as medical research for untreated syphilis, without informed consent. That experiment went on until 1972. For 40 years, these black men were uninformed lab rats. It’s called the “Tuskegee Study of Untreated Syphilis in the Negro Male.” Look it up. I’m learning how racial bias plays a role in the lack of adequate health care given to the black community, even IF they have comparable insurance and financial resources. 

I’m learning the disparities between predominately white schools and those that are predominately black. How do we assure that even in schools that are relatively diverse that students are being treated equitably? Are the brown kids being kept from the Talented and Gifted program because of the racial bias of their teachers?

These are big, deep problems. They go so far beyond the face of police brutality. Yes, our justice system is also broken. Our police stations are filled with Law Enforcement Officers, rather than Keepers of the Peace. There’s a difference there. It might seem like semantics, but it’s pervasive. It’s at the heart of it. When police are militarized, they’re bound to act more like soldiers. That’s what they’ve been trained to do. This is a problem, but it’s not the only problem.

You see, I know that I need to stand up and say something. I know I need to stand in the gap and be a friend to the marginalized. That’s the heart of Jesus. He, himself, spent time with people nobody else wanted to hang out with: tax collectors, prostitutes, adulterers, the poor, the sick, the afflicted. He came to serve the oppressed. He called me to do the same when he told the Pharisees that the two greatest commandments are these: Love God and Love People. 

I know my actions and my words may not always be “right.” I know I am bound to offend someone during all this. I’ve counted the cost, and I’m willing to take that chance. I cannot be silent. I won’t be silent. We’ve been silent too long.

So, what’s my point? I guess I just want you to hear my heart. I have a lot of friends who are speaking up and a lot who aren’t. I also have a lot of friends who are taking the time to listen to what’s being said; they’re also learning like I am and getting educated so they feel comfortable enough to speak. Me…? Maybe I speak a little too off-the-cuff. I like to think that’s part of my charm. Regardless, I simply want you to know that the battle that is being fought is a Just one. It’s for the right reasons. It might be messy and chaotic and look like it’s making everything worse, but that’s what happens when systems are disrupted. Shoot, that’s what happens when furniture gets rearranged. This is so much more than that. It’s not going to be easy and it certainly won’t appeal to anyone’s aesthetic taste, but sometimes you have to upset some tables in order for people to pay attention.

 

For more information:

Tuskegee Study

Implicit Bias and Racial Disparity in Health Care

Inequality in School

There are so many more articles on all these subjects. Please do your research. Also, be sure to learn about the Black Americans who have made incredible contributions to our world in art, music, literature, science, technology, space… They don’t get highlighted nearly enough.

When Home Isn’t Sweet – with Vanessa Harris

June 3, 2020
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This is a special episode this week!

Listen to the full episode here

I’m featuring the podcast, Motherhood Unmasked, hosted by Vanessa Harris. Vanessa is also an author and a speaker. She is passionate about equipping women to take off the masks they wear and embrace their true identity. She is compassionate and resonates with wisdom.

In this episode, Vanessa addresses the very real concern that many women are facing during this pandemic and it isn’t the virus, it’s the abuser they live with. With grace and kindness, Vanessa brings encouragement and hope to the woman who may find herself feeling more isolated than ever.

If you or someone you know is in this situation and needs help, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233

To find Vanessa and her books, blog, and podcast:
vinelifefaith.com

You can also subscribe to Motherhood Unmasked on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Cult to Christ: A Journey of Healing

May 22, 2020
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When Mischelle Saunders-Gottsch was just a young girl, her family was swept up in what seemed like nothing less than a friendly church group. But what looked so good on the outside, quickly turned to control and abuse.

This week, we’ll hear from Mischelle as she shares her story of overcoming hurt and betrayal and how she learned to trust again.

Listen to the Full Episode Here

Mischelle is the founder and CEO of Altered Stories Ministry, a place where women learn the power of telling their stories of God’s redemption and healing. To learn more, go to https://alteredstories.org/

She also hosts a podcast by the same name, where women share their stories. You can find it wherever podcasts can be found, as well as on her website.

For more information about cults:

How Cults Work

Escaping A Cult – article

Cult Watch

 

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Special thanks to the Jingle Punks for the use of their song, “Dusty Road” for our intro and outro.

This episode was recorded, edited, and produced at 4G’s Studios in Sandy, Oregon. 2020. All rights reserved. 

Falling Forward: A Response to Trauma and Crisis

May 20, 2020
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We’ve all experienced it: Fight, Flight, or Freeze. Those are the ways we respond in times of trauma or crisis. But what if there’s another response?

Tune in this week to hear from Brandy as she takes a look at what it means to Fall.

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Special thanks to The Jingle Punks for the use of their song, “Dusty Road” as our intro and outro.

Good Friday: Hope is on the Way!

April 10, 2020
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This Good Friday, I’ve collaborated with a handful of other podcasters to bring you messages of hope. Coming from all different walks of life, with shows that have a variety of themes, one thing is certain: hope is needed now, more than ever, and the One constant hope is Jesus Christ.

Listen to this week’s episode here

 

Enjoy hearing these mini messages from:

Jenna Erlandson – Bridge of the Faithful Podcast

Tina Chambers Smith – Raising Kids on Your Knees Podcast

Meg Glesener – Letters From Home Podcast

Debbi Roberston – From Willingness to Wellness Podcast

Mischelle Saunders-Gottsch – Altered Stories Podcast

 

Other CPA Podcasts to check out:

Tim Winders – Seek Go Create Podcast

Tara Ross – The Hope Prose Podcast

Paula Chamberlain – A Quilter’s Life Podcast

Monika Hardy – Moments with Moni Podcast

Teresa Blaes – Unresolved Life Podcast

 

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Special thanks to The Jingle Punks for the use of their song, “Dusty Road” for the outro music.

This episode was recorded in collaboration with Christian Podcasters Association. All works are individually owned by the creators. This episode was edited and produced by Brandy J. Goebel in Sandy, Oregon. 2020. All rights reserved. 

A New Rhythm

March 31, 2020
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The rhythms of life that we’ve all grown so accustomed to have found themselves turned upside-down. What does it look like to find a new rhythm? Join me for a quick look at what it means for us, so far as well as what to expect in the near future.

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Scripture Read:

Matthew 11:28-30 (The Message)

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Special thanks to The Jingle Punks for the use of their song, “Dusty Road” as our intro and outro.

This episode was recorded, edited and produced at 4G’s Studios in Sandy, Oregon. Copyright 2020. All rights reserved.

 

Stomping Out Anxiety: Interview with Caris Snider

March 24, 2020
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In a time when everything feels a little less than certain, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by anxiety. Today, I sit down and talk with Caris Snider, author of “Anxiety Elephants: A 31-Day Devotional to Help Stomp Out Your Anxiety.”

As a business owner, speaker, worship leader, wife, and mom, Caris looked like she had it all together. But like so many, she found herself at the end of the road, realizing she had two options: Give up or look up. Fortunately, Caris bravely faced the unknown with the help of her doctors, family, and friends and learned how to contend with her anxiety.

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It was an honor to have a conversation with Caris about her own journey through anxiety, especially as the entire world is facing with these topsy-turvy times in the midst of a global pandemic. Caris’ story offers hope and encouragement as she learned what it means to carry one another’s burdens and rest in God.

More About Caris:

https://carissnider.com/

To Purchase “Anxiety Elephants”

Amazon

Books A Million

This Week’s Joys:

“The Blessing” by Elevation Worship

“Raise A Hallelujah” – Bethel

“Psalm 23 – Surely Goodness, Surely Mercy” by Shane and Shane

 

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Special thanks to The Jingle Punks for the use of their song, “Dusty Road” as our intro and outro.

This episode was recorded remotely, edited and produced at 4G’s Studios in Sandy, Oregon. Copyright 2020. All rights reserved.

Rest Stop: Psalm 33 & 34

March 19, 2020
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In these uncertain times, it’s more important than ever to rest in God’s word. This week, we find ourselves in Psalm 33 and 34 with verses such as these:

“Our soul waits for the Lord; He is our help and our shield. For our heart rejoices in Him, because we trust in His holy name. Let Your lovingkindness, O Lord, be upon us, according as we have hoped in You.” (Ps. 33:20-22)

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Ps. 34:18)

Listen to Psalm 33 and 34 Here

Friends, our God is bigger than any virus. This did not take him by surprise. We can be assured that God is still God and He is still good, even as we face these weird days of uncertainty. One thing remains: God is faithful to accomplish all that He’s established.

 

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Special thanks to the 126ers for the use of their song, “Rainy Sundays” as our intro and outro.

The New American Standard Bible is used by permission from the Lockman Foundation.

This episode was recorded, edited and produced at 4G’s Studios in Sandy, Oregon. 2020. All rights reserved.

Quarantivities for the Soul

March 17, 2020
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Anxiety, fear, grief, anger…these and so many more are the emotions that so many are feeling during these uncertain Corona Virus times.

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Today, Matt and I have a long-distance conversation about some of the ways we can not only take comfort in the promises of God during this time, but also very specific activities (or, as our daughter has dubbed them “quarantivities”) to fill our time wisely and with fun!

It must be said that in the less than 24 hours since recording this, things have changed here in the US and also with me, Brandy. While much of our conversation is focused on dealing with anxiety, I rather ironically, have been feeling my fair share of it. That being said, I remembered this conversation and took a dose of my own advice (“listen to music” and “turn off the news for a minute”) and am feeling markedly better.

This isn’t just lip service. This advice is practical and beneficial. I hope you take it and share it with people you love.

Self-Care and Activities During Quarantine:

1. Pray
2. Read the Bible: Psalms are great – try Psalm 23
3. Journal
4. Write letters and send them to loved ones
5. Listen to music you love
6. Spend time with your kids: Conversations, shooting hoops, video games, reading books, crafts, etc…
7. Go for a walk: fresh air + Vitamin D = good for ya!
8. Jigsaw puzzles
9. Complete your To-Do List: or at least knock it down – all those projects that you’re saving for “someday”
10. Work on a dream project: write the book, learn the instrument, read the series…

Things to Avoid:

1. Steady stream of news: Stay informed, but don’t only feed on a media diet of the news
2. Hours of Social Media: See above…
3. Binging on Netflix for the entire time: Give yourself limits and keep your body and brain active

Your mental health is just as important as your physical health during this time, so don’t neglect it!

If you’re struggling with depression or thoughts of self-harm, please contact the

Suicide Hotline:

1-800-273-8255

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Special thanks to the Jingle Punks for the use of their song, “Dusty Road” as our intro and outro.

This episode was recorded remotely and edited and produced at 4G’s Studios in Sandy, Oregon. Copyright 2020. All rights reserved.

A Message to My Daughter

March 12, 2020
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At a time when there is so much to say about women’s empowerment and what it means, all I can think of is the message I want my own daughter to take into the world with her when she leaves the safety of this nest. I hope it resonates with you, too. Feel free to share it if it does.

 

Dear Sweet Girl,

I wanted to take a moment to tell you something: You are valuable.

I know, I say that a lot. But here’s the thing: you’re soon going to be out in the world on your own and I won’t be there to buffer you from the messages that it will send to you, which will likely be very different.

The world will tell you that sex sells, that in order to climb the ladder, get ahead, reach your pinnacle of success, you must compromise your standards and use your sexuality to help you advance. 

I say to you, you have been created with a brain that is beautiful and bright and full of curiosity and good thinking skills. You are creative and smart. You are able to problem-solve and research ideas and work with others to bring together something that is good and beneficial. You have deep and profound thoughts that sometimes blow my socks off because, at 17, you are so much smarter than I was.

The world will tell you that sex is the most important aspect of a relationship, that if you want to know your compatibility with a person you must give up the one thing that you can only give away once, your virginity.

I say to you that sex…is amazing. And scary. And sometimes, heartbreaking. The act of sex is about so much more than two naked bodies. Sex is intimacy at it’s deepest. It is giving your whole self to another person – your mind, your heart, and your body. It is a connection that will leave you inextricably connected with whoever you partner with for as long as you live. You don’t need to have great sex in order to have a good relationship. You need to have a great relationship that can withstand even the difficult times in your sex life, because those times will come, no matter who you are or who you’re with. 

The world will tell you that you are too young, too small, too insignificant to listen to. Or that you are too much – too loud, too bossy, too emotional.

I say you are just right. You have been created by God for a purpose and He has given you talents and gifts and passions to fulfill that purpose. There will be roadblocks along the way, but you can overcome. Because your youth has fire in its belly. Your size gives you swiftness and grace to adapt. Your words carry compassion and empathy and wisdom. Your volume is needed in a world that wants to close its ears to the plight of so many who have no voice. Your ability to lead and point others toward their gifts is a strength, not bossiness. And those feelings…those deep, deep feelings, when you hurt for those who hurt and you celebrate the victories of others, those are a reflection of Jesus.

The world will do it’s best to box you in. To say that as a woman, your value is found between your legs and in your willingness to compromise what you believe and know to be true about who you are and Whose you are. 

I say, don’t ever forget, my sweet child that you are a masterpiece, created by God. You are the apple of His eye. He rejoices over you with singing and dancing because His love for you knows no depths. There is no end to His affection for you. 

I wish that I could protect you from all that life will throw at you. There will be great loss and sadness in your life. There will be days you think you can’t breathe, much less get out of bed. There will be times when it feels like everything and everyone is doing it’s best to crush you. Know this, my girl, in the words of author Kathryn Stockett, “You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” And none of that is to be taken lightly.

Go bravely into the world. Be the empowered woman that you are.

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