The Road Home to You

Real conversations about mental health and faith

Cult to Christ: A Journey of Healing

May 22, 2020
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When Mischelle Saunders-Gottsch was just a young girl, her family was swept up in what seemed like nothing less than a friendly church group. But what looked so good on the outside, quickly turned to control and abuse.

This week, we’ll hear from Mischelle as she shares her story of overcoming hurt and betrayal and how she learned to trust again.

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Mischelle is the founder and CEO of Altered Stories Ministry, a place where women learn the power of telling their stories of God’s redemption and healing. To learn more, go to https://alteredstories.org/

She also hosts a podcast by the same name, where women share their stories. You can find it wherever podcasts can be found, as well as on her website.

For more information about cults:

How Cults Work

Escaping A Cult – article

Cult Watch

 

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Special thanks to the Jingle Punks for the use of their song, “Dusty Road” for our intro and outro.

This episode was recorded, edited, and produced at 4G’s Studios in Sandy, Oregon. 2020. All rights reserved. 

Falling Forward: A Response to Trauma and Crisis

May 20, 2020
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We’ve all experienced it: Fight, Flight, or Freeze. Those are the ways we respond in times of trauma or crisis. But what if there’s another response?

Tune in this week to hear from Brandy as she takes a look at what it means to Fall.

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Special thanks to The Jingle Punks for the use of their song, “Dusty Road” as our intro and outro.

A New Rhythm

March 31, 2020
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The rhythms of life that we’ve all grown so accustomed to have found themselves turned upside-down. What does it look like to find a new rhythm? Join me for a quick look at what it means for us, so far as well as what to expect in the near future.

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Scripture Read:

Matthew 11:28-30 (The Message)

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Stomping Out Anxiety: Interview with Caris Snider

March 24, 2020
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In a time when everything feels a little less than certain, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by anxiety. Today, I sit down and talk with Caris Snider, author of “Anxiety Elephants: A 31-Day Devotional to Help Stomp Out Your Anxiety.”

As a business owner, speaker, worship leader, wife, and mom, Caris looked like she had it all together. But like so many, she found herself at the end of the road, realizing she had two options: Give up or look up. Fortunately, Caris bravely faced the unknown with the help of her doctors, family, and friends and learned how to contend with her anxiety.

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It was an honor to have a conversation with Caris about her own journey through anxiety, especially as the entire world is facing with these topsy-turvy times in the midst of a global pandemic. Caris’ story offers hope and encouragement as she learned what it means to carry one another’s burdens and rest in God.

More About Caris:

https://carissnider.com/

To Purchase “Anxiety Elephants”

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Books A Million

This Week’s Joys:

“The Blessing” by Elevation Worship

“Raise A Hallelujah” – Bethel

“Psalm 23 – Surely Goodness, Surely Mercy” by Shane and Shane

 

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Special thanks to The Jingle Punks for the use of their song, “Dusty Road” as our intro and outro.

This episode was recorded remotely, edited and produced at 4G’s Studios in Sandy, Oregon. Copyright 2020. All rights reserved.

Quarantivities for the Soul

March 17, 2020
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Anxiety, fear, grief, anger…these and so many more are the emotions that so many are feeling during these uncertain Corona Virus times.

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Today, Matt and I have a long-distance conversation about some of the ways we can not only take comfort in the promises of God during this time, but also very specific activities (or, as our daughter has dubbed them “quarantivities”) to fill our time wisely and with fun!

It must be said that in the less than 24 hours since recording this, things have changed here in the US and also with me, Brandy. While much of our conversation is focused on dealing with anxiety, I rather ironically, have been feeling my fair share of it. That being said, I remembered this conversation and took a dose of my own advice (“listen to music” and “turn off the news for a minute”) and am feeling markedly better.

This isn’t just lip service. This advice is practical and beneficial. I hope you take it and share it with people you love.

Self-Care and Activities During Quarantine:

1. Pray
2. Read the Bible: Psalms are great – try Psalm 23
3. Journal
4. Write letters and send them to loved ones
5. Listen to music you love
6. Spend time with your kids: Conversations, shooting hoops, video games, reading books, crafts, etc…
7. Go for a walk: fresh air + Vitamin D = good for ya!
8. Jigsaw puzzles
9. Complete your To-Do List: or at least knock it down – all those projects that you’re saving for “someday”
10. Work on a dream project: write the book, learn the instrument, read the series…

Things to Avoid:

1. Steady stream of news: Stay informed, but don’t only feed on a media diet of the news
2. Hours of Social Media: See above…
3. Binging on Netflix for the entire time: Give yourself limits and keep your body and brain active

Your mental health is just as important as your physical health during this time, so don’t neglect it!

If you’re struggling with depression or thoughts of self-harm, please contact the

Suicide Hotline:

1-800-273-8255

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Special thanks to the Jingle Punks for the use of their song, “Dusty Road” as our intro and outro.

This episode was recorded remotely and edited and produced at 4G’s Studios in Sandy, Oregon. Copyright 2020. All rights reserved.

Recovery for the Broken

March 5, 2020
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“The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places.”
– Ernest Hemingway


The simple fact is this: we’re all a little broken. 

It isn’t a pretty truth and certainly not one that most people like to cling to, but it is a fact, none-the-less. We’ve all been hurt by someone as a small child, whether with words or fists. We’ve all seen horrible things happen. We’ve all got some form of addiction – turning even a good thing into The Thing we need in order to numb out from the daily toll of life.

We’ve all heard the old adage, “Hurt people hurt people.” We’ve likely even seen this played out in our lives, when someone who’s having a horrible, no good, rotten kind of day turns around and berates us for the smallest thing. They didn’t mean to lash out, but their words hurt all the same.

So what do we do with all that? How do we move forward in life recognizing that sure, maybe we’re not quite as well put together as we’d like to believe and that, yeah, we can even recognize how we’ve hurt people we care about without even meaning to?

It seems to me like we have a couple of different options.

Option 1: Fake It Til You Make It

This is the approach that a whole lot of people take. They white-knuckle their way through life, striving to be disciplined enough, strong enough, smart enough, attractive enough, good enough. These people likely have the “pull yourself up by the bootstraps” mentality. They’ve probably heard this message and others like it throughout their lives, messages including, men don’t cry. 

But…what if…after all the faking it, you still don’t quite make it? What if you strive and strain and reach and just…don’t…get…there…?

Honestly, a lot of people are able to go through life with this approach and even do alright. They work hard, have all the right things, look put together enough on the outside, they even seem happy. And maybe some of them are. But maybe not quite as happy as they know they could be.

Option 2: Deny, Deny, Deny

Listen, I am well gifted in this approach. I have been known to quite literally bury myself in a pile of blankets and hide because the checkbook needed to be balanced and I knew it was going to be a big ugly mess caused by me.

Denial seems like such a simple way to make the problems go away. We like to fool ourselves into believing that if time heals all wounds, then surely it will cure the mess that is my life. But that is a lie and every one of us who has lived on our own and seen the credit card bills come in can attest to that. Denial will get you nowhere but further behind your problem. Whether it’s overdue bills, an eating disorder, an undiagnosed lump on our breast, addiction, anxiety, or a wounded relationship it will not correct itself. Our problems only seem to grow as we try desperately to shove them into the closet.

Option 3: Name Your Monster and Face It

This is probably the least popular approach to dealing with the messier side to life, but it is hands-down, my favorite.

I’m assuming that everyone reading this has probably watched a movie or tv show where there are good guys and bad guys. Let’s, for example, look at Harry Potter. Harry, along with his friends, has faced many monsters in his time at Hogwarts. They’ve dealt with Death Eaters, a three-headed dog, a spider the size of Chicago, Bertie Bot’s Every Flavor Beans…you get the point. They’ve fought some very scary foes. 

What did they use to fight these adversaries? Well, it’s easy to say they used magic. True. Most of the time, that’s what they used. But more specifically, they used certain types of magic. In fighting Dementors, they used a Patronus. When Harry needed to do reconnaissance work, he wore a cloak that turned him invisible. To disarm another wizard, the spell, expelliarmus was used. The point is: there were different tools used to fight against different opponents.

The same is true for us as we face the issues that are causing us to live in a cyclical pattern of bad choices. Unless we know what “monster” it is we’re fighting, we don’t know how to fight against it.

I can tell you everything you ever wanted to know about alcohol addiction, but if what you’re fighting is grief because your spouse died and you don’t know how to move forward in life without that person, the knowledge you may acquire about addiction isn’t going to do you an ounce of good. It’s important for us to be able to name our monster because then we can be better equipped to overcome it.

This is why recovery matters not just for the “obvious” people – the strung-out junkie or the inebriated raging alcoholic. Recovery is for everyone. Recovery literally means to “return to a normal state of health, mind, or strength” (Oxford Dictionary). 

God didn’t create you broken. He made you a masterpiece (Eph. 2:10) and then placed you into a broken world where you experienced hurt and abuse and the ugliness of sin. He wants to return you to the state you belong: whole and complete in Him.

We won’t get there 100% this side of Heaven but we can experience joy more fully, we can find healing and forgiveness for ourselves and others, and we can understand our purpose and the purpose for our pain when we allow God into the broken places of our hearts and begin the transformative work of recovery.

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Recovery: What It Is and Who It’s For (clue…everyone)

March 3, 2020
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Welcome to the New & Improved The Road Home to You!

We’re going to start off this re-launch with Matt and Brandy in the studio talking about changes you can expect to see as the show moves forward as well as what’s been happening as they’ve been leading Genesis for Change Groups.

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Table of Contents

:50 Intro to Relaunching The Road Home to You
3:05 Why you should listen to TRHTY
5:45 Talking about mental health is important
6:50 Mental health in the context of faith
10:25 Authentic conversations with real people need to happen
11:41 Name Your Monster
13:00 Structure of show – what to expect moving forward
13:52 Call to Action – Be A Guest!
14:20 Recovery – Genesis Groups
16:25 What is Genesis?
21:10 What is the Limbic System?
23:35 Recovery means being honest & taking risks
26:10 Vulnerability in men and leaders
35:29 Progress of Recovery
45:04 Call to Action – Join a Genesis group
47:41 Upcoming Guests
48:55 Call to Action – Subscribe and Share!
50:10 Thank You’s
51:05 Blooper

The Road Home to You

“Offering hope and faith in Jesus to those wounded by others, stuck in addiction or afflicted by the storms of life.”

Genesis Groups

The Genesis Process for Change Groups are meant to happen in the context of relationship. You may gain some insight simply by going through the work on your own, but true recovery comes as learn to trust again, which can only happen as we interact with other people. You may be able to find a Genesis group at a local church. If not, feel free to contact Brandy for further information.

roadhometoyou@gmail.com

Upcoming Episodes

Join Brandy next week for a discussion with guest, Brandi Voth, as we talk about this year’s Super Bowl halftime show, women’s empowerment, and human sex trafficking.

Future topics will also include infidelity, Biblical meditation, alcohol recovery, and so much more!

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Special Thanks

Thanks to the Jingle Punks for the use of their song, “Dusty Road” as our intro and outro.

This episode was recorded, edited and produced at 4G’s Studios in Sandy, Oregon. 2020. All rights reserved.

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